Good Morning,

I am in court this morning to begin the first steps in my wifes desire to be divorced from me. This will happen @ 10:00am MST. I would like to humbly request anyone who feels led to pray over this marriage, the lawyers, judge, Leigh-Ann (wife), myself (oliver), our 5 kids (who do not know what is happening yet), our families. Through many efforts to try (mine and others) steer this another direction, have failed. Only through divine intervention will this divorce be stopped. Only through God's intervention will this turn around.

I know prayer works, and i know God has an invested interest in this marriage (HE created). I ask for your prayers to be sent to HIM on our behalf, there is no other Hope except HIM. Thank you for reading this. Please forward to anyone who would pray over this situation.

Whatever the outcome... may God be Glorified, Praised and Honoured for HE is Always Good. Always.

Sincerely,

Oliver

I am praying for you and your family....but remember even if it happens...maybe down the road she'll regret doing it. Divorce papers are just that...papers...if in her heart she changes down the road the papers won't mean a thing, only to the courts here on Earth. But the real court we need to be worried about is God's. God Bless, Stephanie.

Thankyou to everyone who prayed for this situation today.

Met with the lawyers today. I have agreed to leave the house until Tuesday July 19 2005. This is a goodwill gesture to her without prejudice. We meet again on Tuesday to sit and discuss our options. My wife has already conveyed to her lawyer there is no chance of reconciliation. Thursday is a court date where we will go before the judge. I may be homeless again by next week.

I still stand committed to this marriage and her.

Oliver

this situation is really heartbreaking. I'll pray for you.

Dear Oliver,

July 9th would have been my 15th anniversary......but last year my husband left me for colleague that he had been having an affair with. So last year this time, I was doing the same thing you are now. My divorce was final December 2004. I know this is hard for you, but the Lord has not forgotten you. I have 2 children as well. Let me explain. I was at a new church after moving back to Colorado. As my future husband walked into a church pew a few rows ahead of me, the Lord said audibly "He's the one!" 2 years later I was married. Because the Lord chose my husband and not me, I thought infidelity and divorce were the 2 things I would never have to worry about. Well.........I hadn't factored in free will. About 2 years into my marriage or even soon, while my ex-husband was getting his masters degree in social work, he got into existentialism and walked away from the Lord--he was a "baby christian" when I married him. He was not always nice to me, but I hung in there and stood on my faith, after all God had chosen him, right? When my daughter was 2 1/2 and my son was 6 mos. old or so he said he was going to leave me. Out of nowhere!! I still don't know why. He changed his mind and stayed. About 6 years ago he took his wedding ring off for a week and would not speak to me................don't understand why. In February of 2004 he began having an affair with a colleague and by July 2004 I had filed for divorce based on his psychological abuse--before I even knew about the affair. He had known her for 6 years and had been interested in her all of that time but I didn't know. Now almost a year later, I realize the Lord blessed me in this. My children and I are happier, we are free to serve the Lord anytime we choose to read the bible, etc., and the Lord prophesied to me through a friend who is a prophet that he had another husband for me in the future. It appears that this gentleman is a mature christian. The reason I go into such detail is that we forget about free will. God will not mess with free will. However, because he had an affair and walked away from the Lord as well, I am released from this marraige and God had confirmed it. I am encouraged that God has a plan B for me and do not date because of this. When the Lord chooses, then I'm sure I will meet this person. My reason for telling you all this is to tell you to listen to the Lord even if it seems like the divorce is not the right thing. You cannot stop free will. However, my marraige lasted as long as it did BECAUSE OF PRAYER. At some point my husband just would not submit to the Lord and the Lord said "enough". That's not to say that the Lord will not heal your marraige. But you need to pray and listen to what God is telling you. If you continue to pray for healing it is absolutely possible. Your wife must submit to the Lord. Only God can change a heart. And prayer is your first and only defense now. Pray fervently but also be willing to accept God's will for he truly does know best. I have seen my kids grow and stand on their faith in this and God has brought me through and continues to do so daily. Sorry to ramble on, I just thought the details might help you understand that someone else has seen their convenant marraige fall apart as well and to encourage you and let you know that the Lord has not forgotten you. "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" Phillipians 4:13. "And we know that God causes all things to work together for good, to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose" Romans 8:28.
I hope all goes well and works out for you and will pray for you. I know what it's like......I've been there, too.
God bless you and your family,

Susan in Colorado

Good Morning,

Thank you susan for you words of encouragement and experience.

Update:
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Met with her lawyer and mine yesterday. I presented our household income statement and personal income statement (for renting another place) and the numbers exceed what i make a month. I am the primary financial supporter in the family. My lawyer presented the reality of the situation to them both. Financially this is unable to work if i leave the home. Even her lawyer agreed with mine??? I dont understand that. But in any case i can move back home on friday. The enemy has tried to keep me out of the house, but im back. This will be a trial for 1 month when we will meet again (all 4 of us) and try and hammer out an agreement.

So for the next 2 months i have the kids every second weekend and get to sleep in my own house. I am very grateful for that victory.

My wife on the other hand is not very happy about me coming back home. Kids will be happy and thats what matters at this point.

RE: FREE WILL

Susan you hit the nail on the head. She does have Free Will to choose bewteen right and wrong. I have told her numerous times how divorce was against Gods Will... she wont listen.

Because she has knowingly turned her back on God and said i dont want to listen to that she has basically opened the door to spiritually strongholds in her life. These spirits now have the right to be there because she has rejected Gods Word.

Having said this am i powerless over this situation? no i am not. As head of the family I have authority given to me by God to intervene. This is in Gods will. I also have the authority to interceed on behalf of Leigh-Ann's sin to God. This is not over... and because i get a piece of paper from the human institution does not mean it is over. Am i in denial? Maybe... but i truly believe this marriage will be saved. The enemy will not win this fight because i have Jesus.

Why do i believe this marriage will be saved? Two reasons. First, my mother has recieved twice now (during prayer) a peace that surpasses all human understanding that everything will be ok. She has also stated even though things look bleak at the moment (without hope) she feels it will work out. Secondly i recieved an email from a friend of mine who has also stated that this marriage will be saved (prophectic?). two people same message so far. Three independent people confirming this would verify this as Truth. I am waiting for the 3rd.

I too have the impression it will be saved regardkless of whats happening here in the physical world. Its on the spiritual plane what will deteremine what happens here... and thats where i will be to fight this (with Jesus).

Please continue to pray for this situation...

God Will be Praised, Honoured and Glorified. Thank you.

Oliver

"a peace that surpasses all human understanding that everything will be ok."

I have felt this peace as well. Despite the bombings, the wars, the famines, the diseases, the hatreds, the divorces, the emptyness, and the coming persecutions, I find it amazing that through it all there is Christ Jesus, and he is saying that very thing.

God Help You in your marriage, oyster_777.
BlueRiverTributaries

Good Morning,

Today brings a bag of mixed emotions. I get to come back home tonight, which i am very grateful for. Thank you God for answering prayer. Didnt really think i would be doing this... but here i am.

Today we are putting our cat down. His kidneys are failing, losing weight, drinking lots of water, etc... It was a difficult decision but we have decided to do this. Kids are upset over it, but my wife more so. He was the first baby in the family. I gave "Maundy" (was named after Maundy Thursday)to my wife ten years ago. I bought him from behind a chinese seafood store for $10 (my last $10 at the time). When i brought him home i could hold him in the palm of my hand he was so small. Now ten years later i have difficulty picking him up because hes a "Big" cat (30 lbs+).

This decision to put him down is very hard emotionally on my wife. Last night she called me and asked me to be with her for emotional support. I was hesitant to do that because of this divorce but listened to my heart and took this as an oppourtunity to sow a seed of compassion, support and Love for LeighAnn. Time will tell what will grow from this seed... it can only be good. Thank you Jesus for this opporutunity, and thank you for softening my heart towards her. Thank you for shining through me to her. May God be given all the praise, honour and glory for whatever comes from this little seed.

Oliver

Good for you, Oliver! Stand on your faith and give the enemy a black eye. Faith as small as a mustard seed can move a mountain. Hang in there, for you are correct......all is not always what it seems to the world. God bless and have prayed, again for you and yours.

Susan in Colorado