Hi Guys,

I reported a while back that my wife has come back to me. I spoke to soon.

She has informed me she wants me to do a trial seperation for a period of time. I do not agree with this and will not do it. There is a man whom i work with (coincidence?) has gone through a similar situation with his wife. They went to "counsellors" to get help. After 15 years of counselling they found a counsellor who was directly linked to God. When i say this i mean they walked with God (Ray Aguilera, Jack Barr, Thomas Gibson, etc... but were not necessarily a prophet). He told me how his counselling session with this Godly person went. They prayed for God to reveal the problem in the marriage and waited for an answer. No dsicussion until someone had the issue come to mind (participants). Then they discussed it, waded through it, binded it in Jesus Name and went on to the next. Until ALL deep issues/ problems had been dealt with.

I feel my previous marriage counselling only dealt with the symptoms and not the underlining problems.

I want to get at the problem (s) and get rid of them. Please pray that such a person (Godly Counsellor) would come into our lives and help us get to the problems in our marriage and guide us through the solutions to get rid of them.

Also pray for Leigh-Ann who is fighting this tooth and nail would agree to attend these seesions.

I still have hope, and His Name is Jesus.

Oliver

Our hope is indeed Jesus. I will pray for you right now. God Bless.

The past 5 days have been very difficult. I have have relented and agreed to a 2 month seperation. I dont know where i will go or stay during that time because finacially i cannot pay a mortgage and rent an apartment. I gave my wedding ring back to her last night and told her that when she feels in love with me again she can give it back to me. She asked if i wanted back the ring i gave her? I said no because i was still in love with her.

I took friday and monday off from work because i felt sick to my stomach whats transpiring in my family. I have tossed the idea of suicide around and have not ruled that out. Desperation of not being able to face reality??!? I will wait until September to see what happens in my marriage. Will wait and see if her feelings for this marriage are salvageable and hopefully she will stay. If she decides to leave me then thats what happens and i will have to accept that... but i presently do not want to live in such sadness. Perhaps this is my reward for all those years of neglect.

I will use this time away from home to fast, pray, revaluate my life, my relationship with Jesus, ...future. There is only one hope that will save this marriage and without that divine intervention all will be lost. I still have hope for now but each day ticks away and so does my marriage. What a mess.

I apologize for writing this here. I didnt know where else to turn.

Oliver

dont apologise because we all care about you! suicide will do nothing for you dude i have been there and believe me when i tell you that it does not work! i will continue to pray for your marrige and for your family for Jesus has big plans for all of you bigger then what you are going through now bless you and always

revivalgurl

oyster777_: I didnt know where else to turn.

You have come to the right place!

First of all, we're free of charge.

Second, you have people here who can pray for you. People here have been EXTREMELY beneficial to me, and I pray the same will happen for you.

And don't commit suicide. I have also toyed with the idea almost the entire Month of May, and God was grace (May = 5) ious enough to rescue me each and every time. He has no intention of you killing yourself. No matter how much pressure you are going through, if you do kill yourself, the devil will have won. Pray to God Himself, and He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and bring us to His Promised Land.

You were never meant to walk alone. There are times, when Christ will carry you. You only have to accept.

And I am not parroting anything. All of this I have experienced in my own life. No eye has seen the grandeur of what WILL BE in store for us who are in Christ Jesus.

You are in Christ, and anyone who leaves families, possessions, title, land, will not fail to receive 100 times as much and in the end, eternal life. I have left much, and I have much left to leave, but when the LORD says to go, I will go. I have faith in the person. He has proven Himself to me, and He is worthy to be followed.

You said, "I don't know if this is for my years of neglect," I don't know if it is or isn't, but the LORD will forgive everything. He even told Reymundo that.

But now you understand something hard, that you must put Christ first in your life, and your marriage second. Nothing is more important than your relationship with Christ. We are praying for you.

When you put a piece of metal into a fire, it gets heated, and then beaten again and again. But after awhile, the impurities are gone, and all that is left is a sword that will survive anything. I speak from what I have been enduring the entire month of May-Grace.

God Bless, and we is praying for you,

BlueRiverTributaries

when my wife and i had problems a few years back ,she moved in with her mother for 3 months ,that was when i devoted my life to jesus to save my marriage,he then directed us to christian counselling and it did wonders in our life,since she came back i could probably count on one hand the number of times we argued,you must keep reading the bible every dayand keep your faith in the lord,for your thinking the way satan wants you to think,for satan loves people to get divorced ,and faith is something you can't see,feel or touch,but you must have it so the lord will let you know how much you love him,i will add you in my daily prayers,for prayers are a mighty powerful thing
yours in christ mark